James Kennedy Murphy

In this video, attorney James K. Murphy of Hoge Partners, PLLC provides "3 Tips for Dating During a Divorce in Kentucky". One of the most common questions we receive from clients is, “When should I start dating again?” There really isn’t an easy answer. Most people take time to heal and to prepare to move forward. Many will find the dating scene, after a divorce, to be as daunting and awkward as it was in high school. While you may want to rush back out there, keep in mind that others will be impacted by your actions – especially your children Here are 3 tips to consider regarding dating during (and after) a divorce: Tip #1: Don’t introduce your children to your new “friend” too soon. Children can become easily attached. While some will feel uncomfortable with this new person, others can quickly see this new person as permanent part of their new life. Unfortunately, as you step back into dating, the first person you meet probably won’t be your future spouse. If this early relationship doesn’t work out, your children might have a difficult time coping with feelings of rejection, insecurity and even betrayal. Let the relationship season a bit, before you take the step of involving your child/children in this new phase of your life. Tip #2: Don’t broadcast comments and photos of your new relationship on social media. While you may be excited and happy to be moving on, others may not be at that stage. Children may have access to your Facebook or other social media accounts. They may still be trying to come to terms with their new and unfamiliar family situation. At the same time, family friends will see your social media updates. This could lead to uncomfortable questions for both you and your children. Given the fact that friends are often left to choose one side or the other, your friend may accidentally (or purposely) make comments to your ex spouse. Depending on your situation, this may or may not be helpful. Tip #3: Inform your ex spouse about your decision to begin dating. This is not meant to be vindictive. Rather, it’s always best to try to minimize the drama. It’s likely that your children are going to have questions. It would be best for your ex to hear this directly from you, rather than the rumor mill. The two of you may not be in the same emotional state. Your decision to begin dating during or after a divorce can complicate the situation. By informing your spouse, you’ll hopefully give him/her time be emotionally prepared to answer your child’s questions, or at least avoid a harmful outburst. The attorneys at Hoge Partners, PLLC have decades of experience helping individuals deal with divorce and Family Law in Kentucky. We’ve seen divorces go relatively smoothly. But as you might imagine, we’ve also handled complex battles that require careful planning, strategy, and leading subject-matter experts (such as forensic accountants, psychologists and other professionals). We know there’s a lot at stake. If you are considering getting a divorce, or if your spouse recently filed for one, contact us for a confidential discussion. We will guide you through it, every step of the way. For more information, visit our website at http://www.DivorceInKentucky.com, or simply call our office at (502) 583-2005.

In this video, attorney James K. Murphy of Hoge Partners, PLLC provides "3 Tips for Using Social Media During a Divorce." Many of us use social media (especially Facebook). It’s part of our lives and how we communicate with friends. However, when you’re filing for a divorce in Kentucky, social media can cause potential problems for you and your family law attorney. Everything you post online can and most-likely will be found by your spouse and his/her divorce lawyer. In Kentucky, your Facebook posts, Twitter feed, Instagram account and other social media properties can be used as evidence If you’re filing divorce in Kentucky, you need to be careful on social media. Tip #1: Stay off of social media during your divorce. Emotions can be raw. Comments can be taken out of context. Engaging in online sparring matches can convey the wrong image of you in the judge’s eyes. It’s best to limit your comments to other topics and to do your best to keep this situation private. Tip #2: Keep it clean. In this day and age, completely abandoning social media may not be practical in your mind. If you’re going to ignore your divorce attorney’s advice, at least be mindful of what you do post. Avoid sensitive topics. Keep the emotions to a minimum. It’s a difficult situation, but it will pass. Don’t give your soon-to-be ex spouse ammunition to use against you. Remember, everything that you post on social media during your divorce (especially photos) can be subpoenaed and potentially used against you. An effective family law attorney knows how to present facts to benefit his/her client. Tip #3: Change all of your passwords. It’s not uncommon for married couples to share passwords to social media accounts. However, if you’re going to file for divorce in Louisville or the rest of Kentucky, you may want to begin changing your social media passwords. Your future ex spouse could post comments posing as you. While this creates a potential criminal law issue for him/her, it also creates problems for you. You and your divorce attorney will need to take steps to prove that you didn’t upload those comments. You already have enough on your plate. Begin by making a list of all of your social media accounts (e.g. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, etc.). Update each of them after you consult with your family law attorney. He/she will help you to avoid any potential problems. The laweyrs at Hoge Partners, PLLC have decades of experience helping individuals filing for divorce in Kentucky. We’ve seen divorces go relatively smoothly. But as you might imagine, we’ve also handled complex battles that require careful planning, strategy, and leading subject-matter experts (such as forensic accountants, psychologists and other professionals). We know there’s a lot at stake. If you are considering getting a divorce, or if your spouse recently filed for one, contact us for a confidential discussion. We will guide you through it, every step of the way. For more information, visit our website at http://www.DivorceInKentucky.com, or simply call our office at (502) 583-2005.